What do to when your writing process fails you

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I’m a big believer in templates and systems. But what should you do if your writing process suddenly stops working for you?

I really struggled with writing the last two issues of Power Writing. (I’m hoping you didn’t notice.) Ironically, those issues focused on the topic of Deliberate Practice – a series of habits designed to make your writing better.

I’ve been free from writer’s block for so long, I’d completely forgotten the gnarliness of the beast. News flash: it’s still alive and as horrible as ever.

My woes began with the issue you received on Tuesday, Sept. 25. Here’s what happened: As always, I started with a mindmap. I noticed my ideas didn’t flow as readily as normal, but, regardless, I finished it and started writing. But instead of seeing my fingertips sprint across the keyboard, I noticed they travelled reluctantly, a bit like a group of six-year-olds being herded into a doctor’s office for immunizations.

Shortly after noticing that, I discovered I was doing what I’ve instructed all of you to avoid. I was editing WHILE writing. I knew I was sunk and started to get mad at myself. “Don’t be such an idiot, Daphne,” my internal editor said to me with a hint of snark in her voice.

When I finally finished the damn column (and it took me 90 minutes rather than the usual 30 to 45), I read it. My heart sank. I quickly understood I had written the wrong column. The good news was my effort wasn’t entirely wasted – I’d simply written part 3 when I needed part 2, first. But the bad news, of course, was that I’d have to dedicate another chunk of time – right away — to producing another column. Feeling more than a little hard done by, I produced another mindmap and started writing again.

If anything, it was even harder for me to write this new column. Instead of six-year-olds awaiting needles, I now had a bunch of aristocrats walking reluctantly to the guillotine. The words did not want to move. This caused my internal editor to go into overdrive. “Was my whole writing process deeply flawed?” “What business did I have saying I could coach others on how to write?” “Why had I ever given myself the assignment of writing a weekly column (never mind a daily blog)?”

Of course, I was awfulizing. But that wasn’t even the end of it. I have an arrangement with a friend, who also a writer and blogger. We edit each other’s columns once a week. Turns out she didn’t like my introduction. I had to rewrite it three times before she felt comfortable.

Practically in despair after going through all of this, I told her I was having second thoughts about my writing process. “Doesn’t it normally work for you?” she asked. Well, yes, I had to confess. But it didn’t this time. “So you have a writing process that works 98% of the time or better, and you’re still having second thoughts?” she continued. Well, yes, I admitted.

“Stop being such a perfectionist,” she told me, kindly.

That shut me up.

What’s more, when I did the mindmap for this column today, I realized three mistakes I’d made. I’m going to share them with you now in the hope that you can avoid similar misery.

1)   When I found myself editing while writing, I should have simply walked away from my desk and taken a break. Sometimes, stopping writing is the only sensible thing to do. In situations like this, I often go for a walk but you may prefer to go for a run, a drive, a swim or even wash some dishes! Choose an activity that you can do without much thought, leaving your brain free to mull over what you need to write. Don’t sit at your desk and stare at a blank computer screen.

2)   When I discovered that I’d accidentally written column 3 when I’d meant to write column 2, I should have re-examined my mindmaps. I’d obviously gone astray there. Furthermore, I should have been grateful rather than resentful. After all, being ahead by a column would leave me free to do other work or — good heavens – read or relax during the following week. (When life hands you lemons, always make lemonade.)

3)   I should have trusted myself. I no longer need to write as though I am slowly and painfully torturing myself. Writing is mostly easy and uncomplicated for me now – and the few times it’s difficult, well, I can live with that. I don’t need to be a perfectionist about writing. And neither do you.

Has your writing practice ever failed you? Share your experience in my comments section below.

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Posted October 9th, 2012 in Power Writing

  • Mae Lorette

    How timely! Thanks for sharing this. I must say that I read your blog with a smile, not out of meanness but because I experienced exactly the same thing this morning. I finally set that chapter aside, and as I did that I knew without a doubt that what was interfering was my failure to do a proper timeline, something that had been niggling at me for a week or so. It means work, but that is okay because I have learned the bull work is well worth it. So, reading your blog made me feel as though I belong to a community of human beings who love to write. Thanks so much!!!

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      So often we don’t do something because we fear it will take too much time. And yet our FAILURE to do that one thing is what ends up costing us the time. Ironic, isn’t it?

  • http://www.facebook.com/suzanne.suor Suzanne Suor

    Like many of your fans, I love your newsletter. Today’s message was right on, not so much because of writer’s block, but because my internal editor, with opinions about life and writing, has been on my shoulder all morning. Good to know others share the pain some days. Thanks for being there every Tuesday.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      You can always tell your internal editor that you’ll talk to her later, when you have more time!

  • http://twitter.com/writingforwork Charlotte Mannion

    This happened to me a few weeks ago with a publisher breathing down my neck and I kept thinking this wouldn’t happen to Daphne and now I find it does!. Brave world of 98% I concur and keep sharing your thoughts.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      It happens to everyone, Charlotte. We’re all human beings. And no one’s perfect! :-)

  • http://twitter.com/lynnemelcombe Lynne Melcombe

    Interesting timing. I’ve been following your writing process, for the most part, and finding it helps. But last week I was writing a piece and really struggled with it. Nothing worked. So it’s interesting to read your observations and realize that was exactly my problem … I was letting the editor have too much say as I was writing.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Never let your internal editor have ANY say while you’re creating! She can run amuck when you’re editing but in return she must stay silent when you’re writing. That’s the rule!

  • Clarke Echols

    An axiom that has helped me be very productive is: Never do anything the hard way if you can find an easier way to do it better.

    My
    wife thinks I have ADHD. She could be right, but I took an online
    evaluation and didn’t come close. Still, I find it very hard to force
    myself to sit and write when thoughts aren’t going well or behaving
    properly, so I go take a walk or do something else for a while.

    It’s
    a bit dangerous — especially if deadlines loom, but getting and
    staying ahead of schedule is magnifcently helpful, when you can.

    But
    there are times when the ideas simply won’t come, and that’s when the
    trap can be a huge time-waster — crossword puzzles, sudoku, following
    current events, you name it.

    That’s when it’s back to the drawing board. “What am I trying to accomplish?” “What’s the purpose of what I’m trying to do?”

    Then
    it becomes an engineering problem (for the engineer in me, at least).
    Define the result — the end product with purpose, etc., as I said.
    What are the big component pieces that make it up (e.g., what pages are
    needed for a website? What general subtopics are needed for the article
    I’m writing?)
    and when I map those out, are there missing pieces?

    If pieces are missing, are they big enough to need attention now, or can they be postponed with a reminder note?

    Break the sections into smaller pieces. Then those further, if needed.

    Now fill in the blanks.

    This is similar to Bob Bly’s method.

    Sometimes
    I just create the sections, then put them in correct sequence later
    (works for some technical books where chapters address a specific task,
    topic, or other logical “chunk”.

    Beware the “paralysis of
    analysis”. It’s a serious disease among CPAs, engineers, and others who
    obsess about doing things “the right way”. There is no single “right
    way”. Get over it. Do what works. And if what you do works over 90%
    of the time, realize that the other few percent may require a different
    approach. Just welcome it as a break from the tedious normal.

    Think
    of it as an opportunity to grow and get better, and remember that when
    you’ve been eating for a week in up-scale restaurants on a business
    trip, coming home to a plate of mashed potatoes with hamburger gravy
    with nothing else can seem like a feast.

    (Been there. Done
    that. 5 days away on business while my wife was home with 6 or 8 kids
    (don’t recall how many at the time — we have 9, our oldest has 8 and
    she’s loving it!) and wanted to go out to eat. I wanted potatoes and
    hamburger gravy. We compromised and went out. After all, if momma
    ain’t happy, nobody’s happy. :-) We’ve been married 46 years now, and
    still learning to get along better, so don’t give up.)

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Love your idea of seeing writer’s block as a “welcome break from the tedious normal”!!

  • Ros (Canberra)

    Oh Daphne – so glad you had your buddy-editor to help you see the situation from another perspective! Lovely examples of how, when we’re writing, we’re not always our own best friend!

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      I really do try to be my best friend but I so seldom manage it!!