Preparing for imperfection

preparing for imperfection

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Has it ever occurred to you to plan for the worst while hoping for the best? This is precisely why preparing for imperfection is such an integral part of the writing process.

If I had a dollar for every person who told me they couldn’t write because they were a “perfectionist,” well, I wouldn’t need to write this column because I could afford to sit on a beach in the Caribbean and sip Mai Tais right now.

The bigger issue for people who don’t write is, typically, that they have poor impulse control. This means that they can’t stop themselves from checking email or Facebook — or worse, going out for coffee or beer with friends — when they ought to be writing. I learned this nugget during an interview with Piers Steel, the author of the terrific book The Procrastination Equation.

But there is one way in which being a perfectionist can really undo you and that’s by making you feel surprised when things go wrong. Perfectionists usually imagine there is just one thing they need to do in order to finish a task. For the sake of argument, let’s say they decide they need to muster the determination to spend five hours writing a report. Spend those five hours, they figure, and they’ll finish the report and their supervisor will be super impressed.

And what do you imagine happens next?

First, of course they’re going to have difficulty finding the five hours. We’re all busy people and we have many demands on our attention. Can you remember the last time you had five entire hours that were unspoken for? (I’m guessing the answer is no.) So, this is where the perfectionist — let’s call him or her Morgan — first goes wrong. Morgan doesn’t think to break the task into smaller, more manageable portions.

But let’s be wildly optimistic and assume Morgan magically does find the five hours. The next problem — which crops up immediately — is that Morgan doesn’t feel inspired. Sitting at a desk in front of a computer seems dull and boring and Morgan immediately starts to feel “hemmed in.” Morgan expects that writing is a creative activity and needs to feel inspired. (Too bad Morgan is unfamiliar with the Peter de Vries quote: “I write when I’m inspired, and I see to it that I’m inspired at nine o’clock every morning.”)

But let’s renew our optimism and imagine that Morgan experiences a minor miracle and manages to break through the first 15 minutes and is able to start putting words on the screen. In fact, things even go reasonably well for the first 30 minutes but then, oh no, Morgan hits a road block. This writing business is much harder work than he or she had imagined. Morgan looks at the clock. There are 4.5 more hours to go. Yikes! That’s going to be intolerable.

Now let’s put our optimism on life support and imagine that, somehow, Morgan manages to persist for the five hours and produce a crappy first draft. He or she reads it and becomes totally deflated because the writing is not nearly as good as expected or hoped. “I really can’t write,” Morgan concludes. “I shouldn’t have wasted those five hours on this dreck.”

Morgan’s mistake, however, was not being a bad writer. The error was failing to make a plan for all the things that can — and often will — go wrong. If you are a perfectionist who feels there’s just one thing you need to do to be able to write (usually, have enough time), take the time to prepare for the following obstacles:

  • The lure of procrastination:When you get an assignment, begin it right away, at the very least by making a plan that will allow you to do a little bit of work daily, over a longer stretch of time. Working 20 minutes a day over 15 days is vastly more effective (and less dispiriting and exhausting) than working for five hours straight, even though the time investment is exactly the same.
  • The feeling of being overwhelmed that comes with any big job: Always break big (or medium-sized) jobs into smaller ones. I finished this column you’re reading now in five parts: 1) I thought of the idea a month ago, (2) I wrote a rough draft last Thursday (3) I had a friend read it last Friday morning, (4) I edited it Friday afternoon, (5) I found a photo and posted it to my blog yesterday.
  • The need for rewards: People often tell me this idea seems silly or too self-indulgent. But it’s not! If your boss offered you a raise (or even theatre tickets or a dinner at a nice restaurant) would you turn it down? Of course not! But bosses don’t do any of these things very often so it’s important for you to reward yourself. The reward doesn’t have to be expensive (or fattening.) Consider lattes, specialty teas, magazines, a nice lunch out or even time on Facebook or Twitter. I’ve been writing this blog for 11 years now so I no longer need to reward myself for it. But I did when I started. And I still do whenever I take on a job that’s new or in any way daunting.

None of us is perfect, particularly not me. That’s why I always plan for disaster. And if disaster doesn’t occur, I can enjoy being very pleasantly surprised.

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How do you plan for disaster when you’re writing? We can all learn from each other so, please, share your thoughts with my readers and me in the “comments” section, below.  And congratulations to Christine Junge, the winner of this month’s book prize, Around The Writer’s Block by Rosanne Bane  for a Feb. 14/17 comment on my blog. Anyone who comments on today’s post (or any others) by March 31/17 will be put in a draw for a copy of Ifferisms, by Mardy Grothe. To leave your own comment, please, scroll down to the section, directly underneath the “related posts” links, below. Note that you don’t have to join the commenting software to post. See here to learn how to post as a guest.

Posted March 7th, 2017 in Power Writing

  • Aurore

    Hi Dapné.
    Great post, as usual ! Thanks !
    I was about to send you questions related to this post “difficulty to write when you are a perfectionist”.
    I also have the feeling that researches’ work is never finish (I’m writting a technical book); I never have enough information !!

    Did you write any blog post about co-writing ? Actually I’m writting with another author and it’s quite difficult to find the right voice when we are 2 !
    Have a nice day 🙂

    • Thanks for the idea of a blog post about co-writing. It does present some very specific challenges. I will try to tackle that topic soon.

  • Awesome read, as always. Annnnnnd now I need to get back to writing.

  • kimmarla

    Makes good sense! I just have to break projects down into little chunks and life will work better. Thanks!

    • Life will not only be better but you’ll also be way more productive!

      • kimmarla

        I’m sure it will!

  • BJ Phillips

    Great advice. Perfectionism also manifests itself in making it hard to let go of a project and editing something to death — even reports or meeting minutes. I did that. One thing I learned was that perfect means perfect for that job, not the perfect in my head. The other thing it was hard to get past when approaching writing something like a book as a new writer is editing like crazy as you write. It took signing up for National Novel Writing Month, where you crank out 50,000 words in 30 days, to get me to just write and stop trying to fix every word as I wrote it. I don’t think I’m a perfectionist any more. Or if I am, it’s in remission. I’m writing my third book now! Thanks for your great advice.

    • I like your expression “perfect for that job.” Great way to think about it!