Are you an awfulizer?

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If you’re an “awfulizer” who procrastinates until deadlines are near (or passed!) here are five writing tips to help you become eager and optimistic about writing….

Awfulizers are people who expect the worst. They are the Alexanders of this world, constantly experiencing one terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day after another.

I used to be an awfulizer about writing. I’d delay and procrastinate until I had almost no time remaining and then I’d write quickly and efficiently. Ironically, of course, this was because I had no time left. And I’d have suffered unspeakably, first.

Do you do the same thing with your writing?

Here are five tips for turning yourself from an awfulizer into an eager and optimistic writer:

  1. Resolve to spend just five minutes on your assignment, the moment you receive it. I know, I know. When a deadline isn’t imminent, it’s awfully temping to starting thinking about something else. Don’t let yourself delay! Did you know that runners often resolve to pull on their shorts and shoes and head out the door every day — permitting themselves to stop after only five minutes if they really, really hate it. The thing is, most of them then stick with running for 30 minutes or longer. But I’m not even trying to talk you into 30 minutes of writing. Just five! And use them to accomplish tip #2.
  2. Break the job into small parts. As a former awfulizer I know I used to imagine all my writing jobs as both enormous and insurmountable. Now I simply break them into much smaller tasks that even my tiny brain can grasp. For example, instead of regarding this 500-750 word column each week as a single job, I see it as five: (i) thinking of the topic (ii) creating a mindmap, (iii) writing a rough draft, (iv) editing, and, (v) posting it. None of these tasks is overwhelming so I’m usually enthusiastic about doing each of them.
  3. Refuse to visualize the job as a big one. Even if you break your writing job into a series of smaller tasks, part of you may still picture it as one big, loathsome piece of work. If your mind is playing that trick on you, rename the job. Call it something else that you regard as fun – say, eating chocolate cake. Writing? No, you’re not going to do that! You’re going to go eat some chocolate cake. This trick is called finding a proxy. Find your proxy if you need to.
  4. Figure out ways to make writing more fun. I love writing now because I make it entertaining. One of my favourite things is to write while I’m eating lunch. I go to an inexpensive restaurant, take my Alpha Neosmart and write a column while I’m eating. (Often I get a first draft of this column written while I’m waiting for my food.) Other entertainments: Listening to music, trying to write faster than my kitchen timer, or attempting to write a column without ever using the verb “to be.”
  5. Reward yourself. I think it’s almost universally true that we don’t reward ourselves nearly enough. I’m really good at reminding friends to celebrate their accomplishments but I seldom remember to do it myself. In fact, after launching my blog (an enormous undertaking that took me more than a year) it didn’t occur to me to reward myself. When a friend pointed out the omission I immediately bought myself $100 worth of books for my Kindle. (Rewards should be as lavish as you can afford when the job is big.)

Remember: while we can’t always control the writing we have to do, we can control how we feel about it. Don’t let a writing assignment make your life miserable. Instead of being an awfulizer use these tips to become awfully efficient!

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Posted April 3rd, 2012 in Power Writing

  • Catherine

    You are SO right, Daphne! I am giving a philosophy talk today at 5pm about a work in progress (I’m a professor) that I have been procrastinating about and dreading doing. I fussed and fussed and fussed, and wasted a lot of time doing tasks uncertainly but frantically. Finally when it was absolutely due, my mind cleared, I focused on about what seemed like an easier task: making the handout. I broke that down into steps, and in about 2 hours or so, the talk (which I had worked on unproductively and nervously for the previous 3 days) just came together. Wouldn’t it be nice if next time I can go straight to the productive phase and skip the frantic extended anxiety period! Remembering to divide and conquer, and focus on doable tasks really helps.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      So glad you were able to break the job into smaller tasks! One other thing that might help: pretend you’re about to go away on holiday. Most of us are amazingly productive when it comes to preparing to go away. We just cut through the nonsense and get right down to exactly what needs to be done!

  • May

    I laughed as I read the first few paragraphs of this article, because it’s so relevant to where I’m at right now with my writing. As always, your insights not only give me tools to rely on, but just plain make me feel better. Thank you, Daphne.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Glad to have helped, May!

  • Tina

    I LOVE your practical wisdom!! This process works for any task. Like that saying, “How do you eat an elephant?” Something BIG feels woefully unmanageable and scary, and can freeze your progress. Yet, the moment you can break down the task –making it conquerable– it loses the power of being BIG. It becomes little tasks, which are easy to maneuver and to complete. You realize you can eat that elephant one bite at a time. Nothing feels better than victory–except newly earned rewards :) .

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      So glad you found it useful!

  • Caran

    It is nice to have a name for my affliction. Thank you for the diagnosis. I am going to go and eat dark chocolate now.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Dark chocolate fixes EVERYTHING!

  • http://www.facebook.com/bob.janes Bob Janes

    Going off on a tangent . . . as I am prone to do. . . have you come across E-Prime? and going further out . . . I didn’t know until just now that Spence-Brown wrote ‘Laws of Form’ in E-Prime, with just one exception.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Bob, E-Prime is new to me. I Googled it and found a link to psychology software tools. Is that what you’re talking about?

  • Alihammonds

    Daphne, I can’t tell you how struck I was by your post today. I just got off a conference call feeling overwhelmed by the writing project when I read your advice. You put it into perspective and now I’m looking forward to getting started. Thanks.

    Alicia

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      So glad you found it useful!

  • http://www.artologynow.com/ Susan

    Perfect timing on this post! Sometimes the projects your mind has turned into giant and scarey monsters aren’t so bad after all when you break them into smaller chunks. I’m experiencing that first hand with a technical project that had me very anxious because, well, I’m not an engineer. Once I broke it down into bite-sized chunks, I realized it was well within my abilities.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      I don’t make writing a monster anymore but I still do it with my taxes. My bookkeeper was after me for some records last week and I delayed and procrastinated, fretting about how much work it was going to be. Finally, I got around to doing it and it was EASY. Took me five minutes. I was suitably embarrassed afterwards…

  • Nicole

    As I read this I was mentally jumping up and down shouting “This is me!”
    Breaking a large task into smaller pieces sounds logical (and like common sense), but I always have to be reminded. And each time it feels like I’ve had a new revelation.
    Thank you for the well-timed advice & help!
    My name is Nicole and I’m an Awfulizer.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      This is MANY of us, I think!!

  • WK

    Insightful post. I also appreciated the suggestions about bypassing the inner critique by proxy.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Using a proxy was the only reason I was able to launch my blog! Otherwise, I’d still be in limbo-land!

  • http://www.not-just-a-name.blogspot.com/ Sherrey Meyer

    My name is Sherrey. Yes, I’m an awfulizer! I admit it. This post is awesome (pardon, the use of the word from a so-called writer!), but it is. I’m going to print it out and pin it where I can see it when I’m avoiding a task or project. You have outlined everything a good writer needs to do, and I think we just get caught up in the looming cloud of tasks and lose our way. We know what we need to do; we just don’t do it! You have inspired me tonight.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Divide and conquer!!

  • http://www.princeheron.com/ Fiona

    Thanks for the tip on breaking writing tasks into five pieces. Great reminder on how to approach any task that seems too big to manage.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      Yes, this works for writing but also for other tasks. I’m going to try to use it for my approach to taxes in the future. (Currently, I’m in ostrich mode when it comes to taxes — head buried in the sand!)

  • MP UPPAL

    To divide the writing process into doable parts does lessen the strain of meeting the dead lines. Your suggestions bring to the fore the needful steps hiding in some corner of the mind. Thanks.

    • Daphne Gray-Grant

      “Doable” is a great word! Glad to have helped.

  • Mark Winn

    Gneood afternoon Daphne; I enjoyed reading this blog on afulizing and horriblizing. I of all people should take a lesson from my former high school cross country running coach, John Kampmann here in LA. He used to sa to us runners as I remember; don’t think or over emphasize the pain your body feels when racing the 2mile distance. It’s not really that bad esp if you have trained adequately.
    So,,, there it is… Mark Winn

  • Swanepoelmistress

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I practically read this with tears in my eyes – sometimes I build a writing job up in my head to such an extent that eventually I’d rather rip my spine out and beat myself with it that get started. I will try to follow the steps and I’ll be back for more help!

    • http://www.publicationcoach.com/ Daphne Gray-Grant

      Oh, if you EVER feel like ripping your spine out over writing, get away from your desk for at least an hour. Go for a walk or drive. Listen to some music. Do dishes. Do ANYTHING else. When you return to writing, calmly, make a plan for yourself. I know you can do this!!!